There’s no one right way to have vaginal sex, but there are some things you can do to make it a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners. For example, starting with foreplay such as kissing or fingering can help stimulate the vagina and penis and encourage lubrication.
It’s important to remember that vaginal sex can cause STIs and pregnancy, so be sure to use protection.
Safe sex practices
Practicing safe sex practices can help you avoid health-related complications like sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy. It means using a condom for protection, having frank conversations about sexual history and preferences with partners, and having regular screenings for STIs and STDs.
Foreplay is a good way to make yourself both physically and emotionally ready for sex. This includes things like massages, kissing and touching, and it helps the vagina to become more lubricated, making the experience more comfortable.
If you’re a beginner at vaginal penetration, it may feel better to start with a softer sex toy and move slowly. You can also try to use your fingers to enter the vagina and gradually increase the number of fingers used. Some people also find it helpful to prop their pelvis on a pillow before being penetrated. It’s a myth that being vaginally penetrated will cause the hymen to bleed. In fact, 99.9 percent of vaginas have a perforated hymen that’s already open to allow blood through. If you do have a closed hymen, it’s possible to stretch the tissue with your fingers over time or have a small procedure done by a doctor to have it opened.
Proper preparation
It’s important to clean yourself and any sex toys before having vaginal sex. This helps prevent the spread of bacteria and other germs. The best way to do this is by using a water-based lube, since oil-based lubes can be harmful if mixed with latex condoms.
When having penetrative sex for the first time, it’s a good idea to start with missionary sex, where the partner who is doing the penetration is on top and can better control the speed and depth of the thrust. This also helps avoid tearing the hymen, which is a thin layer of tissue that covers the vulva and can cause pain if thrusts are done too quickly or forcefully.
The clitoris, which is full of nerve endings and very sensitive to touch, needs to be stimulated to reach orgasm, especially in women. This can be done by rubbing the clitoris with fingers or a sex toy, oral sex, certain sex positions or just general pressure on the vulva. It can take time to learn what pleasures you and your partner enjoy and how to please each other sexually.
Explore what feels good
There are many different ways to pleasure yourself during sex, including using your fingers and a dildo. You can use a smaller dildo at first and gradually increase the size. It is also helpful to move your pelvis during penetration. You might want to prop your pelvis up on a pillow before being penetrated, as this may make it more comfortable. Some people find that foreplay — kissing, fingering, roleplay, masturbation — helps to get them turned on and reduce pain. A personal lubricant can be helpful and it is important to try several different brands until you find one that feels good.
Orgasms feel differently for everyone and can be short or intense. Women often take longer to reach an orgasm than men. It is also possible that you won’t orgase at all during vaginal sex, but this is totally fine! It is more important that you and your partner are happy. You should never be pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. In addition, it is important to always communicate and let your partner know if you are not feeling pleasure or arousal.
Communicate with your partner
If you’re unsure how to have vaginal sex, it’s important to communicate with your partner. This will help ensure that both of you are comfortable and excited about what’s to come. Additionally, it will prevent any surprises that could lead to discomfort or a lack of pleasure.
For example, if you’re both interested in having penetration, make sure to discuss the missionary position. This position allows for easy access to the clitoris and can be extremely pleasurable. Also, consider using lube to increase the pleasure and comfort of penetration. Additionally, be sure to use a water-based lubricant as oil-based ones can break down latex condoms.
In addition to communication, it’s also a good idea to discuss protection. This can prevent health-related complications such as STIs, infections, and unwanted pregnancy in the future. Moreover, it will also reduce the risk of pain during sexual intercourse. This will lead to a more satisfying experience for both of you. Additionally, it will ensure that you’re both using the right protection for your unique needs. This can also be an opportunity to express your sexual desires and fantasies.
Be prepared for discomfort
Sometimes vaginal sex can feel painful – even for people who have had pain-free sex before. It can happen if you’re not using enough lubrication, or if you move too quickly. You may also feel pain if you have a medical condition or had surgery. The most common causes of painful sex include:
There are many ways to have sexual pleasure and orgasms without penetrative vaginal sex, such as oral sex and masturbation. It is important to try different techniques to find what you and your partner enjoy most. Foreplay is a great way to start – kissing, fingering, roleplay and touching each other’s erogenous zones can all get you and your partner more aroused.
Don’t let pain stop you from exploring what you and your partner enjoy most. However, if it does hurt, slow down, use more lubrication and talk to your partner about what is bothering you. If it continues to hurt, you should see a doctor. You might have a condition like thrush, allergies to spermicides or latex condoms (there are latex-free ones available), an infection or another health problem that could make sex uncomfortable or painful.
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